Should I complain?
Today, I had to take a ohysical and lift test for a job. Needless to say, it did not go well. I became very dizzy half way through and went home. This was bad enough, but the guy giving the test was a jerk about the whole thing. My heart rate and blood pressure were very high. I tried to explain to him that this probably due to having two major deaths in the family within the last week. (My grandfather died of a massive heart attack on one side of the family. My aunt died of Lou Garrets disease on the other. I even missed my menstraul cycle this month. This never happens to me unless it is extreme stress.) This is the only explaintation since I am neither overweight or extremely out of shape. I am 140 lbs, 5' 8" and walk and ride my bike everywhere and am always digging, hoeing and turning compost piles in my garden. On top of this, I didn't eat this morning and very little the last two days.
Well, this guy spent the first minute making dumb and somewhat mean jokes about my last name. Then he kept telling me that I should be able to lift more because I am tall (?). Then he told me I had the heartrate and health of a smoker and might as well take it up. He even kept telling everyone very loudly that this is what happens when you go to school and stop exercising to everyone that wondered why I was sitting down (almost in tears). He also went on and on about how this should be a wake up call about my health. How little old ladies come in for physical therapy all the time and can lift and exercise more.
Should I complain? I don't want to go back in for another test and have to deal with him again. I feel really humiliated after this experience. I am already very stressed. Is it normal to have a high heartrate after 2 major deaths in the family in the same week? Only about 3 months ago my resting heartrate was about 65 and today it was 89. It has never been this high for me.
what a dick! he's not who you'd be working for, would he? if so, I'd run far, far away!
No, I would not be working for him. It would be the county. I wish that I had rescheduled the appointment for sometime next week or the week after that. This was the day they gave me. I was left with the impression that it was the only day available. What makes it worse is that my grandfather's funeral was yesterday and his burial is tomorrow. I really didn't think that I was that stressed out over his death until what happened today.
Really, I want to forget about this and not take that test again. He will probably be the one giving it next time.
Complain like hell. I would. That goes beyond unprofessional.
Ugh, I'm so sorry! It sounds like his comments were waaaay out of line and you have every right to complain about him and retake the test when you're feeling better. I can't imagine such a stressful experience when 2 family members just died. I'd be crying my eyes out if he said those things to me.
i agree, he's a dick. you should definitely complain. who the fuck does he think he is?!
A professional did this?
By all means yes you should complain - and the full 9 yards with a formal written complaint.
Agreed! Formal written complaint. Reschedule and ask for a different test administrator.
What a fucking asshole meat head! COMPLAIN! Nobody should be paid to humiliate and mock you... This is not fucking boot camp... I can't believe a man would treat a woman like that! He obviously has some issues
Write a complaint. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior.
Find out who his supervisor is, and also the head of the company(and/or any others you think should know) and send them a letter documenting what happened immediately. This is not only cruel and unprofessional behavior, it also has legal ramifications.
Make sure when you write the letter, include all the facts, just the facts, without any name-calling.
I'm sorry you had to go through this, especially during such a difficult time in your life. You did nothing wrong. You're the victim. Filing a complaint letter could prevent others in the future from being subjected to such abusive treatment.
If you complain-complain, would it go into your report? If I got a report that someone couldn't pass a fitness test and then cried foul, I'd assume it's someone who can't measure up and wants to blame someone else.
I've seen you in Debates. When your emotions (I'm sorry to hear about your losses) are more in check, you can certainly handle the guy yourself if you happen to get him again. Or, when you reschedule, request someone different. While you're there the second time, talk to a supervisor about your concerns (rather than "complaint") regarding the guy's manners.
If you complain-complain, would it go into your report? If I got a report that someone couldn't pass a fitness test and then cried foul, I'd assume it's someone who can't measure up and wants to blame someone else.
I could see this happening, but it might not matter if she goes a second time and does better. It's not like spite could make one suddenly pass a fitness test.
What is this guy's job title? The fact that he was trying to be overheard by others there could be a violation of confidentiality, depending on what he officially does.
and as a side note... supposedly the length of your arms correlates to how much you can lift, but there's tons of other variables at play. But maybe that was his reasoning, you know, if he had any reasoning.
Were there any witnesses who can back up that he said what he said? Like, I don't know, an assistant/nurse/whatever? Otherwise, it might turn into your-word-against-his.
I would definitely go for a formal, written complaint. When you get some distance and can write it formally. Be so polite it's insulting.
If you complain-complain, would it go into your report? If I got a report that someone couldn't pass a fitness test and then cried foul, I'd assume it's someone who can't measure up and wants to blame someone else.
I could see this happening, but it might not matter if she goes a second time and does better. It's not like spite could make one suddenly pass a fitness test.
Which leads us to another issue. If she was under such extreme emotional stress that she missed her period, were her perceptions of the day different than they would have been if she was of normal fortitude? Just from the few threads I've read of hers, I seriously doubt dl-bailey sits down almost in tears when she perceives that someone is being mean to her. I dunno. When I'm under emotional stress (well, any kind of stress), I'm much more sensitive than normal. If she was absolutely top o' the world and it happened, I could see writing a letter. Since she was under extreme personal stress during that time, I'd follow it up with oral communication.
I am so sorry for your losses. I do think that you should contact someone higher up and explain the situation. I don't know if you would call it "complaining", but I think that someone needs to be aware of the happenings and why you perhaps weren't 100%. I don't know if I would even mention the jerk, since you won't be working with him, it doesn't make that much of a difference. If there weren't other people, he could always deny that he was a jerk or say he was "just joking" (this pisses me off really bad, and people think it's a legitimate excuse for being a dumbass!).