I can't believe this. I'm always in the middle of these kinds of things. I discovered (as well as a few coworkers of mine) on Thursday, that my roomate and another coworkers of ours, married (btw with a woman who also works in the same place as we do), are having an affair. I always had my doubts, but I thought it was just my imagination, so I never thought about asking her. The problem is, my roomate, when she's drunk, isn't really discreet, far from it and on Thursday, when we were out in a bar, just hanging out, the secret kind of got out. (The wife isn't in town at the moment btw, so I doubt that she knows anything.) So, on the next day, people were talking at work, of course. So, a couple of friend and I spoke with our roomate, who was telling us that she was really feeling bad about the whole situation, and that she wanted it to stop. (Apparently, she tried to stop it before, but he came back her, telling her that he loved her...  ::)) We all told her the same thing, keep your damn mouth shut, don't talk to him anymore and at work and in public, act as if nothing had happened. That's what she said she would do...

But yesterday, she went to a comedy show in which the man in question is starring with some other coworkers (small place... I know). We told her not to go, that it wasn't a good idea. However, after the show, she tried to ignore the guy, but he stopped her (in front some other people who knew the whole story) and asked her if she was okay... She said yes, then she basically flew out of the place and came back home. She told me afterwards that she didn't feel like going out so she went to bed. However, when I woke up this morning, I saw that the door wasn't closed and I noticed that her coat wasn't there, either. I am so not impressed. I know that I am a friend and that I shouldn't judge, but right now, I feel really mad at her (maybe also because she called a party at our place tonight and she did nothing to prepare the house for it, and I know I will be the one "entertaining" the guests tonight).

I know the man's wife. She is a really good person, however, she has got quite a fiery temper. If she were to find out, we are pretty sure that the man would never get to see his children again (he's got two daughters, btw). I mean, i don't know anything about their marriage, and I don't want to know. I knew the man from back when I was in university, and I never trusted the guy. Funny and outgoing, but he has played so many women, it's unbelievable! We were all surprised when he decided to get married...

And now, he's also trying to put all of the blame on my roomate and she actually took the blame for everything, because she felt bad for him... I mean, he's got so much to lose in all of this... And she believes that she is in love with him, and I believe her actually. It's just that what she's doing right now is not good for her or her career. I've never been in her shoes as the "other woman", nor that I plan to be ever, but I really can't be the friend without an opinion right now... I just can't.

Sorry... I had to let it out somewhere with people who don't know the people in question.