Dear SQ,

I just got back from the long weekend and I had been crossing my fingers hoping you found out the home test was a mistake and you were just late.  I am also glad you told your mom even though she is not supportive of the decision you have made.

I just want to add my two cents to the mix.  You cannot make a wrong decision.  If you look at all the possibilities here--and I see three of them--all of them have positives and negatves for you.  The way I see it, they are all equal choices and you need to pick the one that feels right to you.

I'm just responding to the posts earlier about "hindsight" and making the wrong decision.  Hindsight is really overrated.  It only makes sense for purely quantitative things like the stock market or how much baking powder to add.  Real life is too messy and there is just no way to predict what would have happened even WITH the benefit of hindsight.

So the only thing to do is go with your gut.  And it sounds like you are doing that.

If your mom is pro life...tell her not to have an abortion. You just said that you do NOT WANT to have a baby.

  Agreed. If this ever happens again before you are ready to have a child you might want to consider not letting your Mom in on it.

Yes I went to the doctor and got a confirmation from the blood test.  They didn't tell me how far along I am, but I already know that, I am 3 weeks pregnant, 5 weeks since my last period.  My mom is having a cow because I want to get the abortion.  She is pro life, but I can't see any other choice.  I want the embryo gone.  I  don't have the time or the money to take care of an infant.  Quiete simply, I don't WANT to have a baby.  I am not ready for it. 

Although parents can provide much support/advice in times of need, they are NOT you.  If your mom is going to treat you differently, judge you, disown you, etc., then she is making a very poor parental decision and it will be HER fault if a rift forms between the two of you. You asked her for advice and support during a very difficult time (and you didn't even HAVE to let her know) and instead she judges you.  She should be supporting you in something that you feel is right, even if she whole heartedly disagrees with it.  There are many, MANY things that my parents don't agree with that I've done, but they support me nonetheless even if they wouldn't make the same choices.  Don't let your mom make you feel bad about this situation.  You are a grown adult with goals and plans and a life of your own, and your mom really doesn't get a say in that (even though she may want to).

Perfectly stated, kbuettne! ::clapping::