How compassionate are you? NVR
Posted by Anonymous on Aug 08, 2007 · Member since Dec 1969 · 11789 posts
Remember the episode on the King of Queens where a stranger showed up on Thanksgiving and Doug and Carrie were arguing over it? Doug was the nice guy and Carrie was saying he's a nut don't let him in.
What would you do would you invite him in for thanksgiving dinner?
I agree TKitty. Why do you think small towns are much safer or having more people around is safer to? Say he has a gun what's the other people going do?
Now it's true this is coming from paranoia about being safe but it's also has to do with worrying about yas. Your entitled to your opinion but please do consider this to about the gun part. Like TKitty said there's alot of good people in this world but you don't know who's who.
One story that I heard that mortified me a bit was a guy had an argument with his girlfriend. I think he murdered her I don't remember that part exactly but he did kill other people that's confirmed. A lady in his building let him in she saw that he was upset he was just an aquaintence to her. She offered him ice tea some drink I think. He strangled her.
I wouldn't let a female in absolutely nobody.
I also see a lot of posts referring to "him". So I am curious, if the stranger were female, would you react differently?
Wouldn't let him or her in. I think the reason you are seeing so many "him" responses is because that is how the original question was phrased.
I grew up in a small town...and they are safer, by far. Large cities have more crazy people....cities like NYC (my home) both create and attract crazies. No, I would not act any differently for a woman. The only exception would be a small child...I would never turn away a child.
A starving animal would be allowed in, or at least given lots of food. A skinny little kitten, he/she would definately be allowed inside with a big plate of soft kitty food. That is impossible to resist.
I grew up in a small town. One of my classmates stabbed his mother in the head with a screwdriver. My husband grew up in an even smaller town, where meth is a very real problem. One kid there was obsessed with explosives, to the point of experimenting with them. There are dangerous people everywhere, size of community be d@mned.
A starving animal would be allowed in, or at least given lots of food. A skinny little kitten, he/she would definately be allowed inside with a big plate of soft kitty food. That is impossible to resist.
Agreed
I grew up in a small town. One of my classmates stabbed his mother in the head with a screwdriver. My husband grew up in an even smaller town, where meth is a very real problem. One kid there was obsessed with explosives, to the point of experimenting with them. There are dangerous people everywhere, size of community be d@mned.
Agreed. I grew up in a small town with about 2000 people and have also lived in Miami. I think people tend to feel safer in a small town because their is less "unknown." In a small town you know about each part of town, what kind of people live there, even who lives there. So, although there are still crazy people and crime, in a small town, your chances of knowing who the "crazy people" are and where they live makes it a little easier to avoid.
On the other hand, in a large city, that "unknown" factor is much greater. You are faced with more people you don't know, and you can't automatically tell who is good and who is not. When it comes down to it though, I think there is more crime in large cities because there are more people.
And Tkitty, the meth thing is such a shame. It has become quite a problem in the town where I grew up. >:(
Oddly enough, I personally feel MUCH safer in big cities, like NYC than I do in small towns. Small towns creep me out. All that empty space, not too many neighbors around me, creepy woods, etc. Anything could happen, and no one would hear my cries for help! I hate living where I live no precisely because of the isolation.
Whereas in a city, I have neighbors above me, below me, to the right of me, to the left of me. Sure some of them may be bad, though with the amount of red tape and background checks you now have to do to get an apt. in NYC chances are the neighbors are good. So, if anything were to happen, like strangers knocking on my door ... all my neighbors are within shouting distance.
Man or woman, though, I wouldn't let anyone into my home unless I knew them. I also wouldn't let animals into my home. I'd take them to the vet. But, because I have a cat, I don't want to let an unknown animal in. They may have worms or be agressive towards cats.
I too grew up in a small rural village. Most people didn't lock their doors, we had very little vandalism (maybe on homecoming or prom night), and little burglary. Just the occasional murder, that's all.
There is the woman who finally got sick of years of battering by her alcoholic husband. One morning while he was sleeping one off, she shot him. Then she made breakfast, ate it, washed up, and finally called the police to turn herself in.
When they arrived they realised he had been dead for a couple of hours. She explained that she had eaten breakfast and tidied the house. Astonished, they asked why she had waited to do that before she called in. Her reply: "Well, if I had called you first I wouldn't have had time for breakfast, would I?"
Size and makeup of the urban nucleus doesn't do much in terms of altering human nature.
I usually live in Manchester, in the studenty/faintly-dodgy areas so I seriously doubt I'd let someone in who I don't know. I'd be happy to feed someone but not to let them into my house if I don't know them.
I'd much rather give them something useful that they need rather than money, too - it's sad, but so often it's just going to be spend on drugs/alcohol.
As a person with very little regard for personal safety, I'd say I'd probably invite them in, give them food and money (I hate money and willingly part with it when I see someone in greater need).
But if there were children there, no...I get smarter about things when other people are involved
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