Why we should adopt dogs, cats and other critters in need...Get out the Kleenex.
A few years ago, this article was published in a US newspaper. John Derringer, the morning show host on Q107, Toronto read the article while many people were driving to work. One of the women DJ's had to leave the room. She was crying. John had to stop reading it part way through as he broke down..just having to put his beloved St. Bernard to sleep. Many calls came in to the radio station saying how they had driven to work in tears. One being a police officer. That morning, the news stated you could tell who was listening to Q107 that morning because if you were stuck in traffic and looked at the other drivers, you could see tears streaming down their faces.
I emailed Q107 two days ago and asked if they still had the article. They emailed it to me but were sorry to say they no longer had the audio version of John reading it. So next time you think of going to a breeder, please give thought to rescuing a homeless animal. You will never be sorry you did.
For those of you who listen to Q107, Ryan Parker emailed it to me.
"Hi Di
Thanks for the email…I have copied and pasted the poem "how could you". I don't think we have the audio anymore.
Thanks again
Ryan"
How could you by Jim Willis
When I was a puppy I entertained you with my antics and made you laugh. You called me your child and despite a number of chewed shoes and a couple of murdered throw pillows, I became your best friend. Whenever I was "bad," you'd shake your finger at me and ask "How could you?" - but then you'd relent and roll me over for a bellyrub.
My housetraining took a little longer than expected, because you were terribly busy, but we worked on that together. I remember those nights of nuzzling you in bed, listening to your confidences and secret dreams, and I believed that life could not be any more perfect. We went for long walks and runs in the park, car rides, stops for ice cream (I only got the cone because "ice cream is bad for dogs," you said), and I took long naps in the sun waiting for you to come home at the end of the day.
Gradually, you began spending more time at work and on your career, and more time searching for a human mate. I waited for you patiently, comforted you through heartbreaks and disappointments, never chided you about bad decisions, and romped with glee at your homecomings, and when you fell in love.
She, now your wife, is not a "dog person" - still I welcomed her into our home, tried to show her affection, and obeyed her. I was happy because you were happy. Then the human babies came along and I shared your excitement. I was fascinated by their pinkness, how they smelled, and I wanted to mother them, too. Only she and you worried that I might hurt them, and I spent most of my time banished to another room, or to a dog crate. Oh, how I wanted to love them, but I became a "prisoner of love."
As they began to grow, I became their friend. They clung to my fur and pulled themselves up on wobbly legs, poked fingers in my eyes, investigated my ears and gave me kisses on my nose. I loved everything about them and their touch - because your touch was now so infrequent - and I would have defended them with my life if need be.
I would sneak into their beds and listen to their worries and secret dreams. Together we waited for the sound of your car in the driveway. There had been a time, when others asked you if you had a dog, that you produced a photo of me from your wallet and told them stories about me. These past few years, you just answered "yes" and changed the subject. I had gone from being "your dog" to "just a dog," and you resented every expenditure on my behalf.
Now you have a new career opportunity in another city, and you and they will be moving to an apartment that does not allow pets. You've made the right decision for your "family," but there was a time when I was your only family.
I was excited about the car ride until we arrived at the animal shelter. It smelled of dogs and cats, of fear, of hopelessness. You filled out the paperwork and said "I know you will find a good home for her." They shrugged and gave you a pained look. They understand the realities facing a middle-aged dog or cat, even one with "papers." You had to pry your son's fingers loose from my collar as he screamed "No, Daddy! Please don't let them take my dog!" And I worried for him, and what lessons you had just taught him about friendship and loyalty, about love and responsibility, and about respect for all life. You gave me a goodbye pat on the head, avoided my eyes, and politely refused to take my collar and leash with you. You had a deadline to meet and now I have one, too.
After you left, the two nice ladies said you probably knew about your upcoming move months ago and made no attempt to find me another good home. They shook their heads and asked "How could you?"
They are as attentive to us here in the shelter as their busy schedules allow. They feed us, of course, but I lost my appetite days ago. At first, whenever anyone passed my pen, I rushed to the front, hoping it was you - that you had changed your mind - that this was all a bad dream...or I hoped it would at least be someone who cared, anyone who might save me. When I realized I could not compete with the frolicking for attention of happy puppies, oblivious to their own fate, I retreated to a far corner and waited.
I heard her footsteps as she came for me at the end of the day and I padded along the aisle after her to a separate room. A blissfully quiet room. She placed me on the table, rubbed my ears and told me not to worry. My heart pounded in anticipation of what was to come, but there was also a sense of relief. The prisoner of love had run out of days. As is my nature, I was more concerned about her. The burden which she bears weighs heavily on her and I know that, the same way I knew your every mood.
She gently placed a tourniquet around my foreleg as a tear ran down her cheek. I licked her hand in the same way I used to comfort you so many years ago. She expertly slid the hypodermic needle into my vein. As I felt the sting and the cool liquid coursing through my body, I lay down sleepily, looked into her kind eyes and murmured "How could you?"
Perhaps because she understood my dogspeak, she said "I'm so sorry." She hugged me and hurriedly explained it was her job to make sure I went to a better place, where I wouldn't be ignored or abused or abandoned, or have to fend for myself - a place of love and light so very different from this earthly place. With my last bit of energy, I tried to convey to her with a thump of my tail that my "How could you?" was not meant for her. It was you, My Beloved Master, I was thinking of. I will think of you and wait for you forever.
May everyone in your life continue to show you so much loyalty.
The End
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oh my god.
sometimes I have to take a break from my Death and Dying class readings because it gets pretty heavy...so I hop onto the vegweb Q&A board to waste some time and take my mind off the serious emotional stuff. not such a good idea this time. totally didn't even heed your warning, so now my shirt's all wet.
*goes and snuggles her dear Zumi*
Yup. Totally not expecting the tears, despite the warning. First person narration from the perspective of a dog doesn't usually inspire tears in me, but boyo did this. Thanks for posting. All of my dogs have been from shelters, as have my cats. Best fuzzy friends I've ever had. And yes, I couldn't ever understand how anyone could be cruel enough to send their beloved pet to a shelter.
Sorry for the tears. I have read it three times since getting it a couple of days ago and have cried each time. I remember listening to the audio. I had my beautiful Mexican rescue Isabela at the time and I sobbed. John Derringer comes across as a tough guy but deep down, he is an emotional sweetie. Hearing him break down broke my heart. I remember him saying on the radio, if only one dog gets a home from this story, then good has come from it.
Isabela only got to share my life for 3 1/2 years but that 3 1/2 years were filled with food, warmth and most importantly love. She was probably 8 or 9 when she passed away. I am glad her final days were with someone who loved her and not in a shelter.
They (the homeless critters of the world) never asked to be born, mistreated, abused or homeless. That Isabela and Cali for that matter could/can show much happiness and joy in the simple pleasures of love made/make it all worthwhile.
BTW carrot_wench, Zumi is too cute for words. I love rats! I babysat one years ago. I still remember when the cats got too close to her aquarium, my little affenpinscher would get in the attack mode. Of course, he was a ratter so just didn't want one of them to get to Scooter before he did. Hence, I can not have a pet rat. Willie is no longer with me but with cats and dogs that have been street dogs, a rat looks tasty.
I would take Scooter in a bedroom and let her run around and all over me. I absolutely loved her.
Same goes for bunnies. I would love one but so would Cali. :-(
Every time someone buys from a breeder or pet store, another shelter animal is put to sleep.
Don't get me wrong, Willie my affenpinscher was purchased from a breeder and Teddy, my little Maltese from h*ll was bought at a pet store. The bright side is they were both rejects.
Since adopting Isabela and Cali, I could not in my heart buy another dog from a breeder or store.
I only wonder if at some point in the future if I ever adopt another dog, I will get a healthy one that doesn't need years of medical care and extensive vet bills. Maybe that is my purpose in life, to take ones that would not have a chance because not many would stand by their sides while they get healthy. I don't need several pairs of new shoes and lots of new clothes. I have something way more important....undying love from some amazing grateful critters. In turn, I love them more than anything material.
Now...if only Cali would stop eating my limited supply of shoes....... ::)
Isabela was very ill when I adopted her as was Cali although Cali didn't appear to be, although I knew she was a mange pup. I loved Isabela because she was so ill and just needed her final years to be full of love and happiness.
All of my kitties have been strays or rescued kittens from a feral mom.
When I had to leave my apartment years ago, I found a place that would accept my then furry friends. I wouldn't have gone somewhere that wouldn't accept them.
My first turn off when meeting someone is if they say, I hate cats. Or I really don't like animals. I then know they are not a person I can get close to. Certainly not someone I could share my life with.
What is that expression? The more I know people, the more I love my dog!
My kids are worried because I'm crying... :'(
This was a nice story. I've always adopted - in fact, I picked up my current cat right off the street when she was tiny, and abandoned at 3 weeks old. I plan on adopting a dog when I finally move and get settled in.
I must admit, though, it didn't make me cry. I'm afraid the scientist in me sees way too much anthropomorphisizing. I mean, how does the dog know his owner used to show his photo at various places? Or how does the dog grasp the "career opportunity" and no dogs allowed apartment rule? It can't. I know that's not the point of the story ... but, I just get stuck on unrealistic details like this. :-[
Actually, I think reality is worse - because animals don't understand why people are cruel or why they abandon them. They think that THEY have done something wrong to be cut off from the pack. :'( That concept totally makes tears spring into my eyes.
This was a nice story. I've always adopted - in fact, I picked up my current cat right off the street when she was tiny, and abandoned at 3 weeks old. I plan on adopting a dog when I finally move and get settled in.
I must admit, though, it didn't make me cry. I'm afraid the scientist in me sees way too much anthropomorphisizing. I mean, how does the dog know his owner used to show his photo at various places? Or how does the dog grasp the "career opportunity" and no dogs allowed apartment rule? It can't. I know that's not the point of the story ... but, I just get stuck on unrealistic details like this. :-[
Actually, I think reality is worse - because animals don't understand why people are cruel or why they abandon them. They think that THEY have done something wrong to be cut off from the pack. :'( That concept totally makes tears spring into my eyes.
I understand what you are saying but I have dealt with three animal communicators in the last few years and animals understand way more than we give them credit for. All three communicators told me things about my pets that they could not possibly have known.
I agree that they may not be able to understand why we are cruel but after having Willie. Teddy, Boobie, Pie, Biko and Isabela talked to by a communicator, I am shocked at what animals know and understand.
Animals see in visuals and if cruelty is in the visual, they see it.
Cali's communication was the most funny. She made some pretty bizarre requests before I put her in a kennel last November. When the airline screwed up and didn't get me home when I should have gotten home, Cali acted out.
Cali told the communicator that she wanted to have her name and my last name on her collar. Also my phone number. She wanted everyone to know she had a name and a home. She also told the communicator that she wanted my picture in the kennel beside her bed. The kennel obliged. They said she walked over and looked at it every day. I was supposed to come home on a certain day but the airline screwed up. When I didn't arrive as planned, Cali ate my picture! ;D
Oh... Yes, adopting!
And more importantly, even, though I am not knocking the selfless parenting done by so many good good people...
SPAY AND NEUTER YOUR PETS.
OK, I have three dogs around me right now, and they were all a bit concerned that I was bawling like I was.
But then I had a good laugh over that, Diver-Di, and they have all relaxed.
;D Thanks for the emotional roller coaster ride!!!
:'( :'( I read this yesterday and was telling one of the people I work with and starting crying...again. I'm headed to the shelter this weekend to bring Bella home a new friend. Rescuing and the people that do it, are awesome! And if you can't rescue...helping with any kind of donation (whether toys/food/money/time) is great too!
:'( :'( I read this yesterday and was telling one of the people I work with and starting crying...again. I'm headed to the shelter this weekend to bring Bella home a new friend. Rescuing and the people that do it, are awesome! And if you can't rescue...helping with any kind of donation (whether toys/food/money/time) is great too!
AWESOME!!!!!
Good for you Lauren! :)
My admin. wants to know why I'm crying now. This breaks my heart. :'(
Thank you for this article. My hubby and I are actually actively searching for a dog to adopt. You have completely opened my eyes and I am now going to consider "adult" dogs. My hubby wants a young dog/puppy but I'll send him this link...thanks again.
:'( :'( I read this yesterday and was telling one of the people I work with and starting crying...again. I'm headed to the shelter this weekend to bring Bella home a new friend. Rescuing and the people that do it, are awesome! And if you can't rescue...helping with any kind of donation (whether toys/food/money/time) is great too!
AWESOME!!!!!
Good for you Lauren! :)
I'm very exciting about it! I know that he is still in a cast because he had to have some surgery, so he is at a disadvantage at getting adopted. I knew if I worked on my DH long enough he'd relent about adding another to the family. ;) He swears someday that he is going to have to get me a farm because I want to save them all!! Animals are just SOOO much better than people!
If you guys appreciated this piece of work from Jim Willis, I recommend the book Pieces of My Heart by Jim Willis, which not only contains How Could You? but many other writings (and they are not all sad).
His writing Sacrificial Offering is what caused me to become veg*n. The web link is http://jimwillis0.tripod.com/tiergarten/id23.html if you are interested.
:'( :'( I read this yesterday and was telling one of the people I work with and starting crying...again. I'm headed to the shelter this weekend to bring Bella home a new friend. Rescuing and the people that do it, are awesome! And if you can't rescue...helping with any kind of donation (whether toys/food/money/time) is great too!
Lauren, congratulations on your decision. YAY!!! Please share pictures when you bring your new bundle home :)
Di, I had read this in one of the Toronto papers years ago (forget which one but Derringer had a column) & it was so heart-wrenching. Thanx for posting it here. I think I'll copy it & post it at work. Why do people ignore all the animals in shelters & instead pay extreme amounts of money on a pure bred? Someone at work just spent $1500 on a puppy. I tried to get her to realize just how many animals could have been saved if she had of donated it all to the SPCA & adopted a puppy. It breaks my heart :'(
;) He swears someday that he is going to have to get me a farm because I want to save them all!! Animals are just SOOO much better than people!
So... in that case....you'll end up living exactly like I do! :o ;)
OK after reading this earlier, I totally realised what the story was behind one of the dogs, Lina, that I am watching right now. Ever since she came here, about 14 days ago, we have been at odds with eachother. The constant barking, pulling, aggression towards other dogs, whining, pacing... It was annoying me and I was seriously counting down the days until her return (in 2 more days).
And then I read this post (and cried).
Lina is a rescue dog from Italy. I can only imagine what she went through before her owners rescued her from the shelter and took her in. Now her behavior makes complete sense to me. Not only does she probably have a sad background, but she also probably has abandonement issues, which would explain her pacing and whining when she thinks no one is around, and her barking when she hears odd noises (normal apartment life noises). She probably just really misses her family, and is confused by the new people, dogs, and apartments that surround her now.
I brought her up onto the couch, patted my lap, and she curled right up with me (she's not the smallest dog), and we had a good cuddle and I am seeing her in a completely different light now.
I'm just mad now that it took me so long to realize this.
Thanks so much again for posting this.