i love the thing re: the diva cup. cause i actually won some points with ma ladyfriend (we'll use CP) when we were talking about ours. but then again, most boys aren't bleeders.

but definably let things do their own thing. i've had some bad "relationships" (to use the term LOOSELY) that moved really fast and fell apart because it was all based on sex. good times, but not for long and the ends were messy as hell. yikes. AVOID!!

wait until you have a good idea you really know what you want to do with things. if he is a good guy, he'll enjoy the getting-to-know-ya time! but he sounds like a good one (and my type too!  ^-^)

Haha, indeed.  It's easier to bond over Diva Cups with females than males, due to lack of vag and whatnot. 

yes yes yes, getting to know you time.  Just keep going out with him like you are.  Things will fall into place.  Don't think about it too hard.  If he's into you, he'll stick around until you decide what you feel/want. 

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but definably let things do their own thing. i've had some bad "relationships" (to use the term LOOSELY) that moved really fast and fell apart because it was all based on sex. good times, but not for long and the ends were messy as hell. yikes. AVOID!!

That's the definition of a GC.  Or an LC, if you will.  Es no good.  ;D

Anyway, she mentioned that women on okcupid get messages all the time, and that she could have a different date every day this week if she wanted.  When I mentioned my dismay at this (because I rarely get messages or offers for dates) she said it is because men tend to be more "on the prowl."

Yes.  I responded to perhaps 5 or 10 out of 100s of messages on okc when my account was active.  In terms of how many I send out...well, not that many.  But that could just be me being lazy/selective.  I went on perhaps 6 or so (different) dates through okc before I met the boy I'm dating now.  But yeah, what your friend says is pretty accurate.  To generalize, men like the pursuit more or something. 

Is your profile complete?  Have you answered lots of questions?  Maybe there is something that is making it harder for you to appear among matches.  Do you have something that makes it easy for people to start conversation with you?  Interesting facts/conversation starters?  Not too generic?  I know that the majority of my messages had to do with how I was a teacher--people liked that.  Also, hate to say it, but "vegan" in bold can be a turnoff.  I included that under my food.  People who are unfamiliar with veganism make snap judgments--it's too polarizing, and they fear they will be judged by you.  I don't know if my current boy would have talked to me if I had played up the veganism--but now that I know him it's good.  He bought me a vegan cookbook as a present the first time we met!  :)

If you want an outside eye on your profile I'd be happy to look at it.  It sounds like you go one plenty of dates though...maybe there is not much in your area?