I'm joining the Moratorium. I've never had sex, but now it's entirely possible. I'm not sure that it's necessarily something that I want right now, so I'm joining up until a date when I decide that it's what I want.

Go Courth!  ;)b

I wish I'd been smarter when I was younger.... but I guess better late than never.

Damn, MDV, good one. So terribly appropriate.

This thread gives me hope.

But she is in love!

:)>>>

just move to chicago, mdv! - we outnumber you in vegwebbers & veggie restaurants...

Or you could all move out to the northern Maryland, vegetarian wasteland.  :-\

You know a guy is the RIGHT guy when he cooks you dinner and picks out a romantic comedy to watch because he knows you've got weddings on the brain. AND he doesn't even try anything to get compensation for his efforts.

That actually happens in real life?

heh heh. i don't think i'm competition for action with any of you. different pools we swim in.  :D

True.

You know a guy is the RIGHT guy when he cooks you dinner and picks out a romantic comedy to watch because he knows you've got weddings on the brain. AND he doesn't even try anything to get compensation for his efforts.

That actually happens in real life?

Speaking of which, and maybe this is part of the problem, I have an aversion to overly nice guys.  I have an aversion to assholes as well; don't get me wrong.  But when I guy sends "Really nice guy" vibes I tend to shut off from him and think, "Weak!  Clingy!  No!"  Mainly because most of the guys I have dated in the past have been overly nice and devoted, to the point where it becomes boring or stifling.  Which is one of my fears.  Feeling stifled is why I got out of my GC situation as well.  I dunno, is this a bad thing?

Is it a bad thing? Because I have that problem as well. The last guy I was in a relationship with was overly nice and I really tried hard to stay in the relationship because he was nice (and boring and predictable... but nice!) and I thought that was important, but I just couldn't stand it anymore. It wasn't fair to him, either, because I'd get annoyed with him and snippy (although he didn't know it was because I was annoyed with him, he just thought I was an overly anxious bitch, most likely--but how do you say nicely, "YOU annoy me?"... yeah, I couldn't do it, so I'll take the bitch rap).

"bad boy" behavior but in a nice guy.

I got lucky and found this with P. He was the bad boy (THAT I ALWAYS DATED), who evolved into the..perfect guy.  :)>>> ( ::)).
I had a lot of really crappy relationships (and a lot of fun..) because of the stupid bad boy thing. Communication is always good advice, but it can be a difficult thing to get over...if it's the personality that annoys you (I've been there!). I guess you just have to remember to look at the whole guy, and try to realize if he is what you really want..and know that you're not just looking for some excitement, or whatever. Well..I guess this only applies if you are actually wanting a true relationship..
I dunno..I don't think I really have any advice ...I just feel ya. I do hate that it happens for women so often..
I think you also need to keep the "wanting to change him" thing in mind, because that doesn't..usually work. BUT, it can..so keep an open mind. haha! Ugh..

Yeah, I try to keep an open mind.  I don't think it's "bad" that I want as much as "cool." 

This makes me think of something from Anne of Green Gables.  (laurabs will 'preciate!)

Anne Shirley: Fred is... extremely good.
Marilla Cuthbert: That is exactly what he should be! Would you want to marry a wicked man?
Anne Shirley: Well, I wouldn't marry anyone who was really wicked, but I think I'd like it if he could be wicked and wouldn't.
Marilla Cuthbert: You'll have better sense some day, I hope.

Very, very fitting.

Yes.

Also, like BP said-- more excitement. I think the "predictable" thing annoyed me as much as the "nice" and "boring" and all that. I want someone I can fight with but who is also nice. (if that makes sense)

I also don't like easy, lovey-dovey, gentle sex for that reason.

I feel the same. it's boring. Then I think-- maybe I just haven't met the right person. Then I think-- maybe I just don't like it. Period.

I think too much.