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Online Dating Sites, and other Catastrophies

So how many people have been doing this online dating thing?  I started it a couple of years ago, and almost immediately I met a truly wonderful person, and we ended up getting engaged.  Sad to say it didn't work out for one reason or another, but since those 3 years ago, I've only dated one person who I met online.  I've talked with a lot of people who've seemed to like me, but most of the time they stopped contacting me before we even went on a date.  Some have even deleted their profiles from the dating sites.  I know I'm a bit awkward, but I hope I haven't been creeping anyone out!

Has anyone else had similar experiences?

Here's a brief rundown of my last two dates, both of which weren't people I met online, but attempts by friends to set me up.

One date was going decently well until the girl insulted a friend of mine, then proceeded to get drunk and puke all over herself and the walls of my friends house where we had dinner.

The other date was apparently a surprise to the girl I was supposed to meet, because the woman who was setting it up forgot to tell the girl I was coming to dinner.  The girl came to dinner in a sweat suit, with the side of her face all puffy because she had a tooth infection.  She was also drugged up with pain medication, and kept falling asleep at the table.  Sweeeet.

Anyone else have fun/horrifying stories?  :surrender:

Wow...those are pretty bad!  :o I've never met anyone from online...so I can't vote in the poll!

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Oh yeah, forgot to add that option!  Tis' up now.

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oh sweetness, you know all my horror stories.

let's just say, the following are not topics to bring up on a first date:
1. your skillz in bed
2. the time you were raped by your step father
3. the abortion that resulted from rape (see above)
4. getting kicked out of your house
5. your battle with cancer
6 your tatoo you want removed b/c it matches your ex's

all bad. all happened to me (from one person, on one date also!)

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oh sweetness, you know all my horror stories.

let's just say, the following are not topics to bring up on a first date:
1. your skillz in bed
2. the time you were raped by your step father
3. the abortion that resulted from rape (see above)
4. getting kicked out of your house
5. your battle with cancer
6 your tatoo you want removed b/c it matches your ex's

all bad. all happened to me (from one person, on one date also!)

Oh wow. At first I was thinking these were things that happened to you, and I was like OMG, bp.  :'(  :o

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I've had good experiences for the most part. In the past two years I've dated a couple of people I've met through online dating services. First there was an ER resident, who I really liked - she basically decided that she was going to be my rebound so that only went on for a few months - she started getting very rude at some point. I was stood up once by a girl who in retrospect was very probably bipolar, so no loss there. I dated a really nice Biologist from Peru for a couple of months but then she became too busy with school (or so she said) so that kind of fizzled out. The last girl I dated lived almost 100 miles away, but oddly is only two blocks away from my brothers family. Things just weren't clicking for me in that one so I ended up calling it off  :-\ 

I was really planning on taking some time off from dating, but last week a coworker in the lab sort of set me up to meet a friend of hers. A fellow grad student from across the street. We seemed to hit it off well, so hopefully there is some potential there :)

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I tried match.com about 5 years ago. I was working at the hospital, worked WAY too much, and slept when I wasn't working, so I figured it couldn't hurt. I met a few guys, nothing to write home about. The one guy I hit it off with, turned out he was cheating on his gf, so yeah, that pretty much rocked. I met my current bf on myspace. Wasn't even trying to date, but it just happened. Turns out we grew up one block away from each other, and in Jr. High we had multiple mutual friends, even though we went to different schools. Almost 4 years later, we're still together.

Oh yeah, one guy I met was SOOOO creepy!! I went to the bathroom, and told my brother to call me in 15 minutes pretending to need a ride. Ugh, he was so weird.

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oh sweetness, you know all my horror stories.

let's just say, the following are not topics to bring up on a first date:
1. your skillz in bed
2. the time you were raped by your step father
3. the abortion that resulted from rape (see above)
4. getting kicked out of your house
5. your battle with cancer
6 your tatoo you want removed b/c it matches your ex's

all bad. all happened to me (from one person, on one date also!)

Oh wow! ...I guess that's one thing I like about the online thing. You get a chance to talk a bit via email, IM and phone before you actually go out on a date. For me, that is kind of a screening process... I've found that if you find yourself a "keeper" ::) like you described, they will usually pour that stuff out over IM considering they are probably drinking as they type.

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*Blerg* I tried the whole dating on line thing too--but I met the worst guys! One of the most memorable was the guy that came over and lit up a joint, then there was the guy who sent me a photo of him all nice and clean cut--when he showed up he was covered in tattoo's from head to foot (I have nothing against tattoo's point is he Marjory lied about his appearance)...let's see who else...oh yes! I dated this one guy who writes books about serial killers--he was very interesting but odd--he would call me up at work and ask me if I think about him when masterbating (this was after our 2sd date!). I always got the impression he was profiling me for a new book or something--actually I should go check on that...hmmm... But really, all my dates seem to go just terrrible-even the guys I meet in the "real world". Although I must say the last two guys I dated were total dolls--too bad one is now in Iraq and the other shattered my heart...dang Cammers--you and I need to get together and commiserate!

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I've had awesome, good, bad, and awkward experiences from online dates.

The awkward, meet this guy for coffee, he's already there, sitting down, so I get my drink and join him, we chat it up, he's a musician that has a full time job working as a counselor for kids and a home owner!!! ;)b We get up and I find myself looking DOWN at him!! I'm kinda on the short side (5'2"), he described himself as avg height, but I SWEAR when we hugged good bye, he came up to my chin!!
The bad...is a toss up between this guy who's classified as my one and only one night stand kinda thing...where he was so bad that I refused to return his calls afterwards; and this guy who's photo didn't show the uneveness in his facial and body parallel structure, due to brain injuries. Needless to say conversation was limited, when we went to a salsa-afro-funk fusion jamband concert and his thought of dancing included "rump bumping" me to the point of throwing me off my rhythm!!!
I've had several good ones. And a few awesome ones that have resulted in relatively long-term relationships and life-long friendships.

And down right traumatic ones from Speed Dating....It works for some, but not for me. This guy, I actually filed a police report against this guy...unfortunately, it was his word against mine, and they didn't feel it possible to bring charges against him for sexual assault.

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In general my entire dating life can be summed up as dating all the wrong people and doing the really close friends thing with all the people I should be dating...

I also suffer from always thinking there's someone out there who is better from than the person I am dating so relationships never last for more than a few months.

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In general my entire dating life can be summed up as dating all the wrong people and doing the really close friends thing with all the people I should be dating...

Ugh.  The story of my life...and I'm running out of friends...  :-[ :'(

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I've been out with a couple people I've met online. Nothing great, only one awful experience. I haven't been on a date since my last relationship (4 years ago).

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oh sweetness, you know all my horror stories.

let's just say, the following are not topics to bring up on a first date:
1. your skillz in bed
2. the time you were raped by your step father
3. the abortion that resulted from rape (see above)
4. getting kicked out of your house
5. your battle with cancer
6 your tatoo you want removed b/c it matches your ex's

all bad. all happened to me (from one person, on one date also!)

Oh wow! ...I guess that's one thing I like about the online thing. You get a chance to talk a bit via email, IM and phone before you actually go out on a date. For me, that is kind of a screening process... I've found that if you find yourself a "keeper" ::) like you described, they will usually pour that stuff out over IM considering they are probably drinking as they type.

yeah, for her, she was normal online. we emailed and IMed for about a week before meeting...

oh well. can't win them all. i have talked to lots of strange ass people though.

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I found two huge weirdos over myspace--actually three. One I sort of dated for a while, until I realized it probably wasn't my fault that I was feeling insulted by half the things he said...and just basically got sick of his bs. I found some people on an actual dating site--met three of them, and am still friends with one I have yet to meet. One of them had a boyfriend and a baby...which was a little awkward...I couldn't decide what to rate my experience as, but since the only one I've seen multiple times was a freak, I didn't do the 'it's ok' thing...

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I've never met anyone online.  I like these things to be organic.  To support my approach, your relationship stories sound like, "I tried dating online and it didn't work, and then I randomly met the person I'm with now."

I also suffer from always thinking there's someone out there who is better from than the person I am dating so relationships never last for more than a few months.

I think it's a defense mechanism to avoid commitment, but you're young, so have fun - but, as you get older:  Dude.  Seriously.  Stop doing that.  It's not bad for her, it's bad for you.

I know I'm a bit awkward, but I hope I haven't been creeping anyone out!

;D  No, Cam.  You seem totally datable to us.

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I've done the online dating scene with good results.  The first guy I ever met online turned into a 3 year relationship.  I remember I was so nervous about meeting him.  "I said what if he's crazy? I met him online."  Then someone said to me, "what if he's thinking the same thing about you?"  That put it all into perspective.  I met some losers too but to me you have just as much chance of meeting "the one" or a crazy person online as you do in a bar/bookstore/class/etc. 
I met the guy I am currently engaged to on Lavalife. 

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In general my entire dating life can be summed up as dating all the wrong people and doing the really close friends thing with all the people I should be dating...

Amen.

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i so want to tell a random story about meeting people online that cammers and i have in common (yeah, its strange!) but i want to make sure he is okay with it since it kind of involves him.
::) ::) ::)

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I have had HORRIBLE online dating experiences.  Most times I met them irl and that was enough to say "no thanks".

And you wonder why I'm still single after 3 years (my last relationship was with my BF, who I did not meet online):

1.  Winner #1 was about to be downsized and had been offered the chance to relocate (fully paid relocation, mind you) in either Detroit or LA but decided that he didn't want to move out of Mom's house  :stfu:; he then said that he was going to leave it in God's hands to find a new job (uh, yeah, God helps those who help themselves????);  This guy also knew that I was into photography and brought his digital cameral with all 300 (yes, 300) pictures he had taken while driving around the desert.  He sat at the dinner table and watched me go through EVERY SINGLE photo.  No offense, but I've had more fun faking an orgasm than looking at his damn photos.

2.  Winner #2 shows up and seems nice enough, although his canine teeth are a bit pointy for my taste, but whatever.  He tells me he's currently an electrician and about 9 hours short of a degree, but has decided that he wants to do something different with his life, so he's not going to finish school.  Instead, he wants to find a new profession.  What was my profession??  Oh, that sounded good to him :o  Then, he tells me that he owns two longhorns and he just couldn't wait to eat them . . . . and yes, he knew I was vegetarian.  But, it gets better - he then tells me that he doesn't "feel the need to populate the earth" with children.  Yeah, because I was really thinking that he was the one that I'd want to have babies with after only speaking for about 10 minutes . . . .

3.  Winner #3 is a professional living in Austin who is a jazz musician in his free time.  He seems cool - he's smart, can carry on a good conversation, knows what he wants to do with his life, owns his home - how bad could he be?  First of all, he owns a dog that is over 6 feet tall when standing on his hind legs.  How do I know this, you ask, well because the dog "welcomed" me into the house by jumping on me and almost tipping me over.  Then the dog proceeded to sniff my crotch the entire time I was at the house.  Okay, I can handle that.  The first date isn't too bad, but I have to drive 1 1/2 hours to see him and he refuses to come to my small town.  I go on a second date and he doesn't want to leave the house, so we watch a movie, literally.  I turn around for a second (after the movie is done) and he's standing there butt-ass naked.  Evidently I missed the part in the dating manual that says watching a movie on a second date automatically leads to sex.  Hello, foreplay??

4.  Winner #4 didn't even constitute as dating since I evidently didn't respond fast enough to him showing interest and he proceeded to email me nice things such as "you're a fucking whore who thinks she's too good for me" . . . . cause that's really a way to get me to be MORE interested in you - WTF???

5.  Winner #5 has also never had a date because he likes to send me emails that say "grrrr" . . . . um, yeah, not a good pick up line . . . .

Yep, that would be why I'm still single and have 3 cats  ;)b

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3.  Winner #3 is a professional living in Austin who is a jazz musician in his free time.  He seems cool - he's smart, can carry on a good conversation, knows what he wants to do with his life, owns his home - how bad could he be?  First of all, he owns a dog that is over 6 feet tall when standing on his hind legs.  How do I know this, you ask, well because the dog "welcomed" me into the house by jumping on me and almost tipping me over.  Then the dog proceeded to sniff my crotch the entire time I was at the house.  Okay, I can handle that.  The first date isn't too bad, but I have to drive 1 1/2 hours to see him and he refuses to come to my small town.  I go on a second date and he doesn't want to leave the house, so we watch a movie, literally.  I turn around for a second (after the movie is done) and he's standing there butt-ass naked.  Evidently I missed the part in the dating manual that says watching a movie on a second date automatically leads to sex.  Hello, foreplay??

:wow:, Jewel. So regarding #3, you were both there watching a movie...and then he got up and you turned around? You were just sitting there...then he got up...you turn around..he's naked??????? I want details.

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