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Age and Dating

Ok, sooo how does everyone feel about age and dating?  Are you ok with dating someone younger than you?  If so how much younger?  Are you ok with dating someone older than you?  If so, how much older?

I ask because I started dating someone younger than me, and I use to say "I will never date a guy younger than me!"  But I did and I am, and I think its working out great.

What do you guys say?

I definitely don't have issues dating guys who are younger or older than me, but I haven't really dated anyone too much outside my own age.  My boy now is the same age as me, almost exactly.  Before that I went out with a bunch of guys who were maybe 2 to 4 years older than me.  I like that, because that usually means they have their shit together, but not always.  Sometimes they're less mature!  I really like dating someone the same age as me right now because it means we have some basic things in common.

It's so hard to correlate age with maturity that I really haven't made it a priority.  If you like the guy, then go for it!  It's silly to dismiss someone purely based on age. 

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My boyfriend whom I love very much is 15 years younger and it has never been an issue. In fact, it keeps me young! :D

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I've usually dated people 4-7 years older than me. Once I dated someone a few months younger and I didn't really like him, but I don't think that had anything to do with his age. Maybe it made me biased though, since I'ved dated older guys ever since. I've gone out with someone who was 14 years older but I was too young and it was weird. My man now is 6 years older than I am and it's great.

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I think the best worded statement I've ever come across on this topic is:

"Age is just a number. Some people are unlisted."

I've been with both younger and older, and at this point in my life, I prefer older. There are one or two younger guys I'd probably make exceptions for. But typically speaking I prefer the 'older brother'/'younger uncle' age group. I once dated a guy who was 23 years my senior. It was supposed to be a summer fling and lasted into the next spring....but yeah, I've decided my 'preferred' age group is my age to 10 years older than me. If I happen to come across an awesome person younger, I probably would cut off the 'okay' spot at 3 years my junior; for older, 15 years.

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I've usually dated guys that were  2-3 years older.  No reason, it just worked out that way.  I was a year older than my last boyfriend.  He used to tease me about robbing the cradle, but it wasn't a big deal.  My current boyfriend is MUCH older than I am...considering he's in his 30's already and I am still very much in my 20s.  ;) :-D

hehe.

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my bf is 2 and a half years younger and we get along great... i think the older u get the less drastic the difference is in maturity... but i don't think someone say 40 and someone say 20 should be dating because i couldn't see what those people could possibly have in common imo but as u get older that could change

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For some reason I have never been able to date anyone my age or younger than me. And the idea of dating someone younger than me honestly creeps me out for no good reason. I think it is some sort of weird mind set of mine that I need to get over.

My current BF is 3 years older than me and that is just perfect. Three years seems to be my magic number.  ;D

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My current boyfriend is MUCH older than I am...considering he's in his 30's already and I am still very much in my 20s.  ;) :-D

yeah, but he acts like he is 15. sometimes. and 2 the other times. :D

Hey!  Both of you stop being turd burglars!

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I've always dated older, unless it was just *you know* a "casual" (read: booty call) kind situation  :)>>>. Mama doesn't discriminate when it comes to good sex.

For more substantial relationships, I gravitate towards guys who are maybe 10 years older than I am. With ladies, someone my own age or a bit older has always suited me well. But really, it's all just personal preference. I don't have any hard and fast rules. I've always just rolled with love when it came my way.

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When I was 40 I dated someone 33....he was an ass, still trying to re-live his frat boy days and would hit on anything in a skirt.  I decided younger men were not for me so next time I dated a man who was 15 years older than me....he was an ass having a mid-life crisis and would hit on anything in a skirt.

Age doesn't matter.....an ass is an ass and they come in all ages!!

For the record, my current almost lover is 14 years older than me and he rocks my socks!  

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My current boyfriend is MUCH older than I am...considering he's in his 30's already and I am still very much in my 20s.  ;) :-D

yeah, but he acts like he is 15. sometimes. and 2 the other times. :D

Hey!  Both of you stop being turd burglars!

LOL

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My current boyfriend is MUCH older than I am...considering he's in his 30's already and I am still very much in my 20s.  ;) :-D

yeah, but he acts like he is 15. sometimes. and 2 the other times. :D

Hey!  Both of you stop being turd burglars!

I can't help it that you're old.  :-D

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Well, until recently, I was dating someone who is 16 years older than me.. for the most part, it worked out, since I'm a little more mature than most guys my age, but there were still some difficulties such as experiences that can't even be described, but rather lived.. It's hard to share some things with someone that wasn't there beside you during it all.

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Well, until recently, I was dating someone who is 16 years older than me.. for the most part, it worked out, since I'm a little more mature than most guys my age, but there were still some difficulties such as experiences that can't even be described, but rather lived.. It's hard to share some things with someone that wasn't there beside you during it all.

how old r u? u look really young!

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Ha.. yeah, I'm 20.

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A big requirement with me is that they must be as equally smart or more intelligent than I.
I really like having intelligent conversations with people.
At my age (18) I could not see dating someone younger, because anyone younger would just be too.. immature.

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wow TL that seems like a huge gap for someone ur age but i mean whatever floats ur boat

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wow, lots of variety in these answers...yeah i agree with those that said age doesnt always override maturity level.  My boy is five years younger and is incredibly mature, way more so than I was at his age for sure.  I still feel a little weird about it at times, only when people comment on it though...or when my friends joke and call me a cougar.  I think about it though and wonder that if i were a guy and he was the girl would people still react that way...hmmm.

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Haha.. yeah. It definately depends from person to person.

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I think about it though and wonder that if i were a guy and he was the girl would people still react that way...hmmm.

Nope, his friends would be highfiving him and stuff.

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