I was 25. Now I feel old to be thinking about more(I'll be 30 later this year >:() I had a miscarriage earlier this summer, so now after we pay off the bills for that, I'll be old when we start again. So, even though that had little to do w/ your question, haha.
I do and don't wish I started earlier. Some days I wish I was single and childless. There is no perfect time.
I have to say I'm glad I had kids young, I was 24 when we started pursuing infertility treatments, given my probs, the docs agreed that if we had waited much longer, our babies may not have happened. Plus I always wanted to be a mom, I can go back and get a degree or different career in my 40's, its much harder to have kids then.
I also grew up with young parents, my mom was done having kids (3) by age 29, i was done by 30. I means that my kiddos are fortunate to have grandparents young enough to play and run around with them, and hopefully will be here to see them grow up. My kids have all 4 grandparents and 4 great grand parents still alive. That is a great blessing.
I was zero when I was conceived. ;)
I always thought I wanted to wait until I was older, (in my 30s) because I thought my 'life' would end...My baby was a surprise when I was 24, (born when I was 25,) and although it would be nice to be a little more financially stable or married or own a home...etc...i would not have it any other way! I have come to realize that there is no "perfect/right time." All you need is love! :)>>>
29 and 36 (almost 37)
I am glad I was a little older....I was still sewing my wild oats in my mid and early twenties.
I also LOVE the age difference between my kids.....I couldn't have 2 little ones at the same time I don't think.
Its funny some people have their kids close in age, others far apart. I had 3 kids less than 4 years apart. My sons are 11 months different in age, not that I planned that one! But I and my brothers are all close in age, and my husb and his sis are 14 months apart. Its a lot like having twins, esp with my sons, the kids all go thru things together, right now we are in toddler/ preschool mode. But there are pros to having them further apart too, like the older ones being more independent, and having one on one time.
I was 18 when I conceived, 19 when I had my daughter. Babies raising babies! What is this world coming to? ;)
Even though it's been tough in some ways to be such a young parent, of course I love my daughter more than anything in the universe. I watched my friends go through so much existential angst over who they are, what they want and what they're doing with their lives. Being a mom kept me incredibly focused on working hard in college, getting a great job and being a stable, responsible person.
I basically did all the "baby" stuff the way I would now. Natural childbirth, baby wearing, homemade baby food, co-sleeping, nursing her until she was almost two. My parents were homebirthers and into attachment parenting, so I had a great example.
It's so funny to think that I'll be 35 when she's 16 or 40 when she's 21! I don't know that I'll have more kids. I love babies so much, but I also think overpopulation is a huge issue and worry about bringing more kids into such a crazy, difficult world. With just one, I'm able to give her lots of material and emotional resources. But I just turned 27 last month, so I have some time to change my mind.
I was 28 when I conceived and had my daughter. It worked out nicely as I enjoyed my early and mid-20s having lots of fun with few responsibilities.
I was an accident when I was concieved, my mom was 17! But she doesn't regret it one bit.
My son was an accident too, but I was 30 and I don't regret it one bit!
I want to have one more baby, I loved being pregnant, and I love the relationship between my son and I. We are not only mother and son, but life partners and best friends. Since it is jsut the two of us, I think it makes our relationship even more special.
I was 27 when I conceived, 28 when she was born. She's almost certainly going to be our only child. Not 'cause this has been a bad experience or anything, I just think I can be a good mom to one kid or a mediocre mom to more than one (this is just me personally, I know lots of moms who are great mothers with several children. Plus the whole resources - both personal and planetary - issue). I think this was the perfect time for me to have a baby. My husband and I had been married for almost 6 years - we really got to know each other, had a lot of fun, saved a lot of money. But I'm still young enough to really be active with her. She still has all four grandparents and four great-grandparents.
I was 23 and 26 when my boys were born,no regrets..I'll be 50 in 3 weeks, and both my boys are on their own, my oldest son has been married 6 years, and they have 2 boys ages 5 and 2 (I love being a nana)...my younger son is engaged, but so far neither he nor his fiancee wants children :( I'm still young enough to enjoy life with my Hubby, without the responsibility of raising kids...cause I already did that ;)b
i'm 34 and currently pregnant. i'll be 35 when the little guy's born. i debated for years about whether or not i wanted to bring a child into this world. i've always thought - and people have always told me - that i would make a good mom, but it was the whole idea of not being financially stable coupled with the environmental aspect of overpopulation that made me doubtful. my biological clock must have kicked in, though... so here i am.
sometimes i wish we had decided to go ahead and start trying several years ago just so we wouldn't be so old when our child finally turned 18, but... i'm sure we'll figure things out and be alright. i'd love to go back to school, too, and know i'll figure that out, too, despite the challenges. people (parents) do it all of the time, right?
I would never encourage anyone to wait that long, because statistically speaking fertility rates are lower and birth defects higher, on average.
But, for us, it worked perfectly, and we couldn't be happier.
I was 20 when I concieved and 21 when I gave birth. I lived my life before that though. I've always been around older people so I've always acted older. My parents are 75 and 60 and my sister before me is 10yrs older than I am :) My oldest brother is 49 and I'm 23 ;) If I had to do it over again I would have waited a little longer though. Yet, I couldn't imagine my life without my son and even though he cheated left me and never sees my son I wouldn't change my sons father. I thank God that I had a support system. If it wasn't for them I don't think I could have emotinally been able to get ahead. And I am thankful that I met a woderful man who is my sons father now and a wonderful husband and provider. As for other kids I really don't know I thought I always wanted a boy and a girl but man a boy is enough!!!!
Yeah, you really can't judge these things by stats - you're ready when you're ready, not when the number says so. However, at 40, I still didn't feel "old enough!"
You dont' have to feel ready to be ready - but on the other hand, don't be rushed by social expectations - just do what's right for the two of you and the baby.
I was 21 when I had my daughter (turned 22 a few months after having her) and now I've just turned 24 and baby number two is due in June (don't know the sex of the baby yet). I always wanted to be a young mum, but don't feel that I was too young, my sister had her little boy when she was 20 and my mum started having children when she was 21 so I guess I fit in nicely with my family - my sisters still insisted that I was 'really young' to be having a child, which I know is just because I'm the 'baby' of the family.
My friends were all finishing uni still when I had my daughter but I never felt left out, I love being a mum and just felt so happy, if overwhelmed at times. Going to mother and baby groups is the only place I seemed to have trouble fitting in - a lot of the mum's wouldn't talk to me as they'd all had children in their late 30's and looked down on me a little and then the topic got onto food and what I fed my little girl and although I never talk down on what people feed their children and don't force my choices on others they had a big problem with the vege/vegan lifestyle and used the phrase 'deprived' a lot. So with regards to age, I'm not sure I'd say I wish I was older, I think I more wish that I had a bit more backbone and didn't let people with opinions like that upset me so much, I really took a lot of what was said to heart, and although I never changed my daughters diet I still felt pressured and ended up no longer attending the groups. I know this time round will be different!