Shhhhhh....Parenting tricks of the trade!
With a two year old running wild around the house and a career in child psychology/development/behavioral therapy with children affected by Autism I feel as though I am learning new tricks-behavior modifications everyday!!!! I am happy to share mine as they come and hoping other parents will too!
*as any behaviorist/parent/teacher will say....reinforcement of appropriate behavior is much more optimal than punishment!!! Reinforcing desired behaviors provides children with more information than punishment..(i.e. I like it when you do this...instead of "don't do that") not to mention reinforcement..(which can come in forms of praise, hugs, etc,) builds up children's self-esteem and teaches them self-regulation of their behaviors...
*this goes the same for modeling appropriate behaviors, (We pet the cat gently like this, you try" Good Job being so gentle! As vegans we are constantly modeling compassion, and in most cases healthy eating choices!
*redirection is a amazing technique in maintaining sanity while raising toddlers!!! (hey, come look over here lets pretend we're dinosaurs while we walk (insert undesired location/demand!)
*and to get less technical
*My daughter loves frozen fruit!! She doesn't like berries unless they are frozen, but then she gobbles them up!
*sandwiches and homemade crackers in cookie cut shapes like these
*even just putting undesired food in a cool bowl or with her fav. Thomas the Train spoon helps to get her to eat it!!!
I definitely have more...and will keep them coming!
it's this one
but for the spices I only use 2 cloves of garlic, then 2 tsp garam masala, 1/4 tsp mild chilli powder, 1 tsp tumeric, 1/4 ground ginger (i never seem to have fresh), 1 tsp cumin and 1 - 2 tsp of rice syrup or whatever sweetner I have to hand.
Sometimes I add a whole tin of tomatoes or grate in a carrot but Winnie will eat it whatever - she has changed a bit now and I have to really finely chop the onion or any veg that I might add in, and she does like to dip bread in it now as well.
I totally agree with cutting things into shape. I swear my 3 year old will eat anything I make out of Hello Kitty shapes! I also find that she'll eat something new if I take a bite first. That worked recently with peanut butter & raisins on celery (ants on a log as my mom always called it).
Caitlin really isn't a picky eater. There only a few things she won't eat. She won't eat onions, so I have to diced them very tiny if I don't want a pile of onions on the table after dinner. Anyways, I just wanted to see that a dip usually makes the difference between an eaten vegatable and one left on the plate. She even likes to dip cooked vegetables. Marinara sauce, stir-fry sauce, or even ketchup all work well.
I also found Nemo-shaped pasta at the grocery store. Yes it's white flour, but by putting a handful in a pot of soup, she will eat any soup without complaint. It does confuse people that a vegan baby would ask for fish soup though.
Those mesh feeding bags are great for teething. I used to put frozen peas in it, and it really helped. I used this more than anything other teething product. I never tried frozen fruit, mostly because the peices were too big to get in the ring. It worked well for frest fruit though. I don't know why more people don't use them.
I second the ERGO.....I got mine second hand. Love it!
I love that this is a behavioral-learning based thread! I work in the field of Applied Behavior Analysis--which it sounds like babygotsauce is studying--and ABA is based on the idea that by changing our environment and our responses we can help others change for the better, in socially significant ways. ABA has tons of research backing it's ideas and methods and it is constantly adding more...it literally makes no assumptions without testing them lots of times.
I'm glad to see the mention of specific praise--many kids, even typical kids, don't know what you're talking about exactly if you say "good job" but they know what you mean if you say "Good job cleaning up your toys."
A couple other 'tricks of the trade': --reinforcement (anything that INCREASES a behavior) works best when delivered within 1 second of the behavior you want to increase. So if you praise a child for something they did an hour ago, or even fifteen minutes ago it is less effective, although still nice.
--punishment (anthing that DECREASES a behavior--so when your kid is screaming in the checkout and you give them candy and they stop screaming then giving them candy IS considered punishment, because it stops the behavior of screaming) is okay to use but the rule of thumb is that for every time you have to say "Don't do this" or "No yelling" etc. you need to praise the positive of that behavior 5-8 times. So if you say "no yelling at the checkout line" then for it to be really effective say "good job using a quiet voice" 5-8 times during checkout.
--if your child already does something willingly, avoid introducing a tangible reward for it, or you will likely see that child start to ONLY do that if he is going to get the reward....something i lreaned the hard way when i started.
As you can probably see I LOVE ABA. I also love child development. I'd be happy to answer any questions anyone has. I've been working with kids pre-k to fifth grade for about 6 years now.
ooh good catch about my punisher example. that's why you should never have your behavior analyst write plans on three hours sleep! lol
i love to chitchat about aba, sometimes its fun to just nerd out and talk about all the little nuances of it :)
I thought of some more....I've been experimenting with the Shakey-shake, (spice shakers filled with nutritious mixes for my daughter to shake on her food.
I've done a
* nut. yeast/sesame seed/wee bit of salt/wheat germ blend, (everything mixed to a powder together in the food processor.)
* a nori seaweed/nut. yeast/sesame seed/ pumpkin seed/salt one (not as well recieved, I believe she described in as "yuck" -I kinda like it though.
Also for new mamas, Berry Raw you're due soon, right?
I don't know if you have a baby carrier but I tried the sling kind, the wrap kind and the baby bijorn kind and my favorite....BY FAR was the best one! you can get an infant insert than it grows with them, we still sometimes use it with our two year old.
heres her in it w/ me 2 summers ago....awwww
LOL, I JUST saw this! I have both a Dr.Sears ring sling and a Baby Bjorn carrier. I use them both around the house and when out for walks or whatever. Sometimes when Maia's super cranky I can just put her in one of the carriers and she chills out. I love being able to wear her around and have free hands!
Kind of am wishing I got one of those Ergo's though, as I've been hearing such good things about them. I need a good summertime/hiking carrier for her, both of mine might make her and I too hot this summer.