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Nannying omni children...

There's a chance that no one may really have advice on this because I may just be whining, but I recently became a live-in nanny for a typical midwestern family of omnis (parents included), who have no desire to adopt a vegan lifestyle. The parents are *somewhat* open-minded, but they still tell the kids that meat is necessary for kids to eat (ugh...). Little do they know that everything I prepare for the kids is at least vegetarian Wink. Anyway, EVERYTHING I eat or prepare has become scrutinized by the children and it's getting old. I thought the novelty of my lifestyle would eventually wear off, but it's been a few months and is still continuing. I get sick of explaining that I personally choose not to animal products every time I put something in my mouth. For example, just minutes ago I made my typical breakfast of oatmeal with rice milk and some fruit, and immediately the kids started saying, "WHAT is that stench?? Gross, how do you not eat meat??" Any advice on making these little ones more open-minded?

Show them Earthlings!

Or give them a good smack upside the head for being so rude.

Disclaimer: I have no children, and clearly wouldn't hit one. But if that's your thing, this is the right time for it...when kids, or anyone else, asks why I don't eat animals, I start explaining, and usually that's the end of it.


How old are they?

I don't think I'd recommend the smacking, or the Earthlings.

Are they liking what you are making for them?

If they are old enough to understand, sit down and explain it all to them, in your own way. Give them all your reasons. You don't have to be grotesque about it. Tell them animal products are not necessary for healthy bodies, and blahblah. Then make them vegan cookies and cupcakes.


Poison them. Children are a fucking plague.


Poison them. Children are a fucking plague.'re great!   :>


make more vegan sweets. eat normal food and not analogues so they are at least familiar with everything. what type of stuff do you make them? make burritos, sandwiches, cereal and sweet vanilla soymilk, etc.

btw, did you see this?


It sounds to me like the parents may be reinforcing their intolerance by telling them how necessary meat is. While they are entitled to their beliefs, they might consider embracing your differences instead of belittling your meatless diet. I would ask for a little bit of support.


If they are anything like the Midwestern families around here, there isn't much you can do.  I was a nanny for an omni family once.  The mother was health conscience to the point of serving slabs of cheese and milk with every meal for calcium.  Her 6-yo was diagnosed with high cholesterol.  I usually tell kids that everyone is different and likes different things and that people generally eat what they are used to.  I explain that it is rude to make comments on someone else's food and point out that you refrain from making comments about their food.  At least here, vegetarians are so rare that people have no idea how to handle it.  Veganism is a foriegn concept.  The parents probably think they are doing right by their kids, and you won't be able to convince them otherwise.  Eventually they will note that you are healthy and thriving on your diet.  That will speak more loudly than any arguement you could come up with. 


I'm in the same boat as you.

I nanny for a family of omnis. The mother's awesome about me being vegan and says she's understands and accepts everyone's personal food preferences, but that she prefers that the children still eat meat and dairy (which is fine) but that she's completely OK with me not cooking meat and dairy, as I don't feed them dinner and she can make it for them for their dinner.

That being said, the kids are picking as hell and turn their nose up at many things I make. I have to blend the veggie soup so much that they can't taste the vegetables and it's completely tasteless (this is the mom's trick to get the 2 yearold to eat vegetables besides carrots). My weekly meal plan is: pasta w/tomato sauce, pasta w/broccoli for the older girl, pasta w/carrots for the younger, salad, fennel salad for the older girl, ham slices, cheese and bread, boiled vegetables. The only way the kids will think about eating veggies is if they're boiled :(. Sometimes the older girl will be happy with some boiled carrots and rice and cheese. The mom does think though that's it necessary in life for children to eat meat.
I usually make the kids some plain meal and pack my own lunch (I'm live out). They usually make some comment like "What are you eating?" and I tell them then ask if they want a taste, they're try a bit and say it's gross but then carry on with their food. It's so annoying, I just want to say there's more to eat than this crap you eat!

Sometimes venting is the best thing to do  ^-^


Thank you all for your responses! The kids are boys (they seem to have learned somewhere that meat-eating is manly....grr), 5 and 10 y/o.  I'm trying slowly to change their thinking/ eating habits. Whatever the outcome, it's great to express my frustrations in such a completely understanding community :) Thanks again!




The novelty of your lifestyle will probably not ever wear off, especially if the kids are able to get a reaction from you by teasing about it.  Kids are really good at understanding what drives you crazy and using it to their advantage.  I am the only vegan in my household (have an omni wife and two omni step kids).  There are no vegetarians or vegans in either my immediate or extended family or my wife's family.  I have been vegan for 10 years and with my wife for 6 and people, my kids included, continue to have a weird fascination with what I can and can't eat.  My advice is to under react to the "ewww gross" comments while addressing any overt disrespect with firm expectations of respect and consequences when necessary for disrespect. Also I agree with the comments of trying to eat foods that look "normal" and winning them over with vegan treats.


Just seeing this thread again.  I would not push much with the 5 yr old.  He is just not at the developmental place to deal with conflicting ideas between authority figures well.  Now the 10 yr old is at a place where you can play mind games.  I could see a conversation going something like:

ewww, gross.

Fine, then more for me.  Glad I don't have to share.  You could not pay me to eat what you're eating.  I'll keep mine, thanks.

Do not criticize outright their food choices but let the 10 yr old know you are as grossed out (or more) over his choices than he is by yours.  Boys have issues not being the grossest.  The  more fuss he makes about it being gross, the more you need to drool and rave over your own food.  Make it a game, not a conflict.  Have fun.  When it is no longer a hot button for you he will most likely give up and be curious over what you are doing.


Why are you trying to change the way they think about what you eat?  That's not your job.  Eat what you want and if they have questions, answer them.  If they don't ask, don't say anything.

I stopped eating meat when I was 12.  I'm now 31.  My family still gives me crap about not eating meat (and I don't even talk about it anymore).  Good luck with the novelty wearing off.


I have been a vegetarian for about years and my family still brings it up on occasion.  They tell me dairy isnt that bad, I am extreme. 
Over time I just have learned education is the best answer.    When it is brought up I rattle off facts about heart disease, cancer, hight blood pressure and what causes it.  I tell them statistics about dairy and the countries who consume the most dairy. 

The questions have subsided.  No one can argue with the truth.  I tell them it i not my "belief" it is a fact that not consuming animal products makes you a healthier person.

Perhaps when the kids ask tell them some facts.  Not just how you feel.

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