Again on circumcision.
Sorry to bring this back up, but I am having issues with BD about this. He wants to get it done, I do not. Surprisingly, my mom supports my decisiton 100%, which I think is totally cool!
Anyway, Chad wants to get our child circumcised, I do not. Luckily we are not married, so I don't really think he has a lot of sayso on the matter...or does he?
Worse, he wants to do a procedure that sounds way worse than circumcision. I can't remember what it was called, but it is where they take a bell shapped thing, place it on the head of his penis, bring the foreskin up around it and secure the foreskin in place with rubber bands to cut off circulation so that after a few weeks the foreskin falls off.
My responce to this: "sounds worse than circumcision!"
Ugh, he is so stupid. It seems lilke he is forgetting that this is a living breathing human being with feelings. A little helpless creature that feels pain, IT IS HIS SON!!! In my mind he mine as well take a whip to the little guy! How can he be so insensitive and even suggest such a horrible thing to be done to any helpless baby, not to mention his own son. I was FURIOUS. Still am.
I'm not offended. I just think people need to consider/question that which society deems "normal" -- y'know, like meat eating... ;)b
true story: I almost died during my circumcision! Let's just say the rabi was a bit sloppy with his knife work. Bring up that story, it may help your case ;)b
true story: I almost died during my circumcision! Let's just say the rabi was a bit sloppy with his knife work. Bring up that story, it may help your case ;)b
:ohno: he must've been sipping a little too much holy water....
true story: I almost died during my circumcision! Let's just say the rabi was a bit sloppy with his knife work. Bring up that story, it may help your case ;)b
:ohno: he must've been sipping a little too much holy water....
Yes! I believe that was the case, and I lost a lot of blood.
Out of all my scars, that one probably is the most talked about :-D Thanks, Rabi.
Ouches. I've got some gnarly scars too! Not in as extreme of places mind you...
Well, my main problem is that he treats me very badly. He is cold, mean, and very insensitive to my situation. He tells me things like "I don't think you would be a very good mother" then says "but I think I would be a pretty good father."
He has also said "every body thinks you are crazy"
Then there was "I don't think I should be responsible for any of the medical bills until after the child is born because everything before that is for you, not the baby" (I was asking only for a little help, not for him to pay everything, just to help out a little with prenantal, and hospital stay)
How about: "if I was in your situation I would be handling it better than you are!"
How many men here have had to deal with a pregnant woman? For those of you that have, would you ever consider saying any of these things to her? Is it any wonder that I am so angry at him? THere are more things he has said, can't remember right now, but I wrote them down.
So far, he has done NOTHING to help me out, either emotionally, financially, or physically. Maybe I am crazy, but I would think that if he is really interested in helping the child, he would be willing to help the mother. Yes, perhaps I have been a bit mean to him, but if he would just show a little compasion towards me I would soften up.
Then the circumcision thing just pisses me off. He listens to his cousin rather than doing his own research. He is like that. He is the type of person who can not think for himself at all. If his friends told him to jump off a bridge he would probably do it without question. I, on the other hand, have done a LOT of research on circumcision and learned a lot, and my decision is based off of that. But he genuinely thinks I am stupid and crazy. So when I try to give him the reasons that I have found out that circumcision isn't a good thing, he ignores me. He doesn't listen to anything I say. I am so frustrated, I just don't know what to do.
You say, "try to work it out". How do you do that when the person you are trying to explain things to thinks you are crazy and stupid? He will not listen to me. I am at my whits end, I just don't know what to do anymore.
:ohno: he must've been sipping a little too much holy water....
:-D :-D :-D Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!
By the way, totally not laughing at your scar, PK.
yeah. so he does sound like a douche. but i still don't know what to suggest, there are two sides to every story and all. he said she said kinda stuff is reason numero uno that i stay away from relationships myself. i would probably tell him to shape up or ship out; but i don't have a kid to take care of, so i dunno.
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