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("frown" didn't seem adequate)

I had to put my sweet black dog to sleep yesterday... knew it was coming-- she was 14, & had been treated for lymphoma for the past several months-- but it just never gets any easier. We were friends a long damn time, and I miss her very much. Pics & FB eulogy here: http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.179450365448242.45816.100001498387941.

Many of the 2-legged creatures in my3-D world fail to understand the sadness magnitude of this event... like, "that's too bad, oh well she was old"... then I kick them in the shins/ balls, and go back to bed.

Cyberhugs needed.

I'm good Josh my family not so much
When we were finally having a ray of light in this awefull year it's bee taken away.  My sister was three months pregnant with twins and went to get checked yesterday and there was no heartbeats.  Today she will be having a d&c.  Our hearts are broken for two family members we will never know and I wish so much that I could make all this sadness go away and I can't.

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I'm good Josh my family not so much
When we were finally having a ray of light in this awefull year it's bee taken away.  My sister was three months pregnant with twins and went to get checked yesterday and there was no heartbeats.  Today she will be having a d&c.  Our hearts are broken for two family members we will never know and I wish so much that I could make all this sadness go away and I can't.

Can't imagine how hard this must be, for her and for the rest of your family. So sorry!... you can't make the sadness go away, but you can be there for each other to help carry it. That's the best anyone can do, at such a time...

(hug)  :(

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I'm good Josh my family not so much
When we were finally having a ray of light in this awefull year it's bee taken away.  My sister was three months pregnant with twins and went to get checked yesterday and there was no heartbeats.  Today she will be having a d&c.  Our hearts are broken for two family members we will never know and I wish so much that I could make all this sadness go away and I can't.

Oh my. I'm so sorry to hear such news. My cousin had a similar situation a few months ago. As I prepared a card for him and his wife, I was speechless. There's nothing I could ever say that would make things better. Just know that I'll do all that I can and then some if you need someone. I sincerely wish nothing but love and the best you and your family.

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I'm good Josh my family not so much
When we were finally having a ray of light in this awefull year it's bee taken away.  My sister was three months pregnant with twins and went to get checked yesterday and there was no heartbeats.  Today she will be having a d&c.  Our hearts are broken for two family members we will never know and I wish so much that I could make all this sadness go away and I can't.

I had a miscarriage a few months ago (just short of 3 months pregnant) and physically, it was the most horrible experience I have ever had.  It was also a lot more drawn out than I had anticipated.  So if you're able to do things for her like help with housework, cook a few meals, look after her kids or pets if she has any, etc., I'm sure she would be eternally grateful.  (I didn't have a D&C though...I think that's supposed to shorten the recovery time.  Still, I'm sure she could use some help).  Obviously it's important to be there for her emotionally too...just...in my experience, I could only deal with one thing at a time and the physical stuff happened first.

So sorry for your family's loss.

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pg, I'm so sorry you went through that, it sounds absolutely horrible.

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No no, I wasn't looking for sympathy. :) I'm fine now.  Just trying to help larisuena help her sister.

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Personal experience confirms the support/advice pg has offered.  Only time will really help your family recover.

I know you have faith, but the one thing I recommend you do not say is along the lines of the following: "It happened for a reason.  Something must have been wrong with the babies.  God wanted it to happen.". You would not believe the asshole things people say.  Just express your love, condolences and offer to help with even the little things.

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I know you have faith, but the one thing I recommend you do not say is along the lines of the following: "It happened for a reason.  Something must have been wrong with the babies.  God wanted it to happen.". You would not believe the asshole things people say.

AGREE x 1,000,000!

I can't be around some of my inlaws without punching them when there's anything seriously bad happening, for this very reason ("Jehovah WANTED this terrible thing to happen to you-- doesn't that make you feel better?!")... this is a tremendously NONcomforting thing to say to anyone, in any grief-inducing circumstance! >:(

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THAT. Both of them. All you can do is say, "I'm here." Unless you've miscarried yourself, on NO account say "I understand" or "I know how you feel." Because unless a person has been there, they don't.

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Thanks you guys!!

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I'm good Josh my family not so much
When we were finally having a ray of light in this awefull year it's bee taken away.  My sister was three months pregnant with twins and went to get checked yesterday and there was no heartbeats.  Today she will be having a d&c.  Our hearts are broken for two family members we will never know and I wish so much that I could make all this sadness go away and I can't.

Thinking of you and your family.  I don't know what to say. . .

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I know you have faith, but the one thing I recommend you do not say is along the lines of the following: "It happened for a reason.  Something must have been wrong with the babies.  God wanted it to happen.". You would not believe the asshole things people say.

AGREE x 1,000,000!

I can't be around some of my inlaws without punching them when there's anything seriously bad happening, for this very reason ("Jehovah WANTED this terrible thing to happen to you-- doesn't that make you feel better?!")... this is a tremendously NONcomforting thing to say to anyone, in any grief-inducing circumstance! >:(

Agreed. This exact reaction from our faith community when my brother died in infancy was the reason for our family's subsequent split from the religion and remaining staunchly secular ever since.

I know you will be a wonderful support for her, just by being there. Even if you feel helpless, her knowing you are there is enough.

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The lack of posting due to the reoccurring virus warnings gives me a sad. :(

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The lack of posting due to the reoccurring virus warnings gives me a sad. :(

This.

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The problem with my L arm turns out to be a rotator cuff. Not surgery worthy, just inflammation. And Pain. Sharp pain like a hot bolt of lightening every so often. The exercises help during the day but at night I either don't sleep at all or wake up every hour or so. 3 hrs last night and at 1.30 AM it was over. Because I get to the place I just want to remove my arm from the socket. There is no where "comfortable" to put it. No position, sitting or lying down. And I can't sleep standing up, oddly enough.
Also the meds they gave me made me so dizzy on the down-slope (when they're wearing off) that when I sat up the room literally went round and round before my eyes.
This is not good.

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Perhaps a sleeping bag velcroed to the wall so you step into it, zip up and it holds you standing up?  >:D 

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Perhaps a sleeping bag velcroed to the wall so you step into it, zip up and it holds you standing up?   >:D   

Oh you mean like those seats they plan on that new huge ultra-jumbo jet (Airbus A400M) ? Girl I wish I could!!

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Perhaps a sleeping bag velcroed to the wall so you step into it, zip up and it holds you standing up?   >:D   

Oh you mean like those seats they plan on that new huge ultra-jumbo jet (Airbus A400M) ? Girl I wish I could!!

I am not familiar with those. :-[  I was thinking the reason velvro was invented, for use on the astronaut's space suits at night.  Just velcro them to the walls of the space station.

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Now that, I didn't know! Somehow I missed it, and yet space was the thing when we were kids. Remember every game had a countdown from 10?
No, srsly, this huge new troopcarrier (which will probably be used for longhaul tourist flights, you wait) wants to have vertical "seating"--basically a cushioned seatback you are strapped into standing up. Supposedly, it's to avoid deep vein thrombosis. In reality, you can cram more people in standing up than sitting down.

Until, of course, there's a crash and hundreds of lives are lost in one go...

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BUMP

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