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new vegan - - and i'm the cook for the family.

hey all... being new to this... i have a problem in the kitchen now. 

do any of you have a problem cooking meat now?  i have meat-eaters in the family... but i don't think i could even cook meat anymore.  is this overstepping the bounds in the kitchen?  is it unfair to everyone else?

I don't cook anything non-vegan. To be honest, even when I did eat omni, the raw stuff grossed me out, so I couldn't even touch it. My DH understands and he's happy with eating what I cook as it means he doesn't have to cook. LOL

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Thank you, Tweety for being the voice of reason on this.

I couldn't have said it better myself (tho, perhaps, I would have used slightly less colorful languge if I had ; )

There is no reason that a vegan - who has chosen a lifestyle of kindness should ever be nasty or hateful to someone else.

Some of us are going to have to agree to disagree on our approach and leave it at that.  It's our own individual decisions what goes on in our kitchens and our homes.

I think we have to take our loved one's feelings into consideration.  Imagine you lived in a house and weren't the cook.  It's a vegan house, and you've been vegan your entire life and suddenly the cook says "I'm only cooking meat, fuck you if you don't like it".  How would you feel.  You might say "o.k. I'll cook my own shit then".  But imagine the strife, nonetheless. 

I think should be respectful in their approach and not selfish.  Not that you should cook meat, I don't just don't think you have to be an ass about it.

However, I understand the vegan's desire for an all-vegan kitchen.  I get that. 

Anyway, I was ovo-lacto when I met my ex.  We spent 10 years together and he never became vegetarian, but he couldn't cook, so he happily ate what I cooked and it worked out. 

Now I'm full fledged vegan and single.  If I ever get in another relationship it would be with the understanding that I cook and eat vegan 100% of the time, but I'm not going to attempt to convert anyone.  As a 50-something year old queer, I don't have many peers out there who might take an interest in me, so I'm not going to be too hardnosed.

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There is no reason that a vegan - who has chosen a lifestyle of kindness should ever be nasty or hateful to someone else.

Some of us are going to have to agree to disagree on our approach and leave it at that.  It's our own individual decisions what goes on in our kitchens and our homes.

Absolutely agree with both these things. The prickle of my hackles (not just on this issue, but on many others represented here in Food Fight, some of which have made a recent thread resurgence that I'm trying hard not to get drawn into, tho I'm not as strong as Tweety so I make no promises!) comes when the view shifts from "This is what I think is the right thing, so this is what I should do" to "This is what I think is the right thing, so this is what EVERYONE should do!" Those are very different statements. I have no problem with folks seeing things differently, and doing things differently; but I have a problem with calling folks selfish (or other judgmental negative things, depending on the thread!) when *they* happen to see things or do things differently!

In most things, there's not 'ONE AND ONLY ONE TRUE RIGHT WAY FOR ALL PEOPLE AT ALL TIMES"... If I may quote Wesley from The Princess Bride, "Anyone who tells you differently is selling something."  :)  Diverse views are cool; condescension/ judgment towards those who diverge from you, not so much. I don't think most folks here support being nasty or hateful to each other (or anyone else), and I don't think we've seen anything that would fit that description in this thread... also don't think it's either nasty or hateful to invest my time in cooking vegan, and leave hubby to procure his own burger, if he decides he can't go without one (in fact, he generally can!)... I'm not trying to talk anyone into doing things my way;  I just have to get involved in the fray, whenever someone says 'You're selfish if you don't see it just like me.' (apningpeelr, I think you're cool & nice! I'm sure you didn't mean that in a mean way, it's just that this kind of framing tends to make me go 'grrr'.)  :)

If we're all happy the way we're handling this kitchen issue... then we are *all* right!  (and also, we're all nice: just different.)  ;)b

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'You're selfish if you don't see it just like me.' (apningpeelr, I think you're cool & nice! I'm sure you didn't mean that in a mean way, it's just that this kind of framing tends to make me go 'grrr'.)

fair enough. that isnt really what i meant at all but i take responsibility for using  naughty "YOU" words instead of "I" words. That always gets me into trouble!

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that isnt really what i meant at all but i take responsibility for using  naughty "YOU" words instead of "I" words. That always gets me into trouble!

You know... you're not alone!... happens to me too.  ::)  And sorry if I mistook your meaning! This has been a good debate on folks' different perspectives about this topic, though! I've enjoyed hearing everyone's thoughts on this...

Food Fight is totally awesome.  :)>>>

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At our house, I tend to not cook any meats, and my hubby will always cook meat.  But there's compromise, if he cooks, he makes sure there's a hearty veggie dish and a salad, and when I cook, I make sure there's a nice pasta dish or potatoes, so there's something for everyone regardless of who the chef is.  He has noticed, since I don't eat meat, I don't taste it and it usually turns out terrible if I cook it, so he doesn't want me to do it for him anymore.

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