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vasectomy- yay or nay?

since this may be an issue in the very near future for my husband and I...  have you done it?  Would you recommend it? Will his balls really sag afterwards?  :-\

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i say go for it.  what the hell.

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Well there haven't been any other responses, so I'll throw in my not-first-hand-experience.

My brother had one after his second child. There was sensitivity for a bit, and then everything was fine. I'd presume everything since has been good. No comment on ball sagging, although I can't understand why they would, the vas deferens not being part of the support structure.

Personally, this makes more sense to me than being on hormonal birth control. Yes, it is (most likely) permanent so you've got to be at the stage of your life that you're sure you don't want any (more) kids. Otherwise, it's a simple procedure that saves the woman in your life having to deal with whatever it is she normally does as a method of birth control. I say  ;)b

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Personally, this makes more sense to me than being on hormonal birth control. Yes, it is (most likely) permanent so you've got to be at the stage of your life that you're sure you don't want any (more) kids. Otherwise, it's a simple procedure that saves the woman in your life having to deal with whatever it is she normally does as a method of birth control. I say  ;)b

yes! you're awesome, man. it would be nice if my bf got a vasectomy. he is adamant about not wanting kids so i don't get why he doesn't do it.

my friend had a vasectomy at the age of 24. i don't know all the details but i think he's pretty happy with it.

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My husband had it done when I was pregnant with the second child. He had one time where it hurt when he came, but it never happened again. Read up on it...there can be some side effects, although they are rare. I love it. I never have to take BC again! His balls do not sag any more than they ever did before. Aren't balls naturally a little bit saggy? Who cares if they do? Will it ruin is Playboy career or something?! ;)

I would also ask, how old are you? do you have children? I didn't want kids at all until I turned about 29 or so. Then everything changed. It is not something you want to have reversed someday.

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My partner just had one about a month and a half ago. He recovered pretty quickly (heh, our sex life is def back to normal!), but I suppose it's too early to tell if his balls are going to get saggy(ier?). They shouldn't, but I agree with L2a: who cares?

He's in his 30s and has wanted one since his mid-20s, but he searched hiiiigh and low for a doctor who would perform it for him and had a lot of frustrations. Most docs flat-out refused b/c he was young, and others nagged the shit out of him so much that he didn't feel comfortable and supported by them. (More ranting and raving about how it feels like no one supports the choice to be a non-breeder, but that's a different thread!)

Neither my partner nor I want kids. I've had an IUD for a year and really like it, but he decided it was the right time for this vasectomy and had found a good doctor, so I suppose I won't have to "renew" after my IUD needs to come out-- lucky me. :) This was a decision that we've both been thinking about independently for years and years, and when we started talking about it together, it just felt very right and natural.

My previous partner also wanted a vasectomy b/c he knew that I did not want kids, but I didn't feel comfortable with that decision. Maybe it's because we were younger, but I actually do believe it's because I had a feeling that we wouldn't stay together forever, and he was somewhat indifferent about having kids-- not adamantly against having them, but rather going along with me because I felt so strongly about it. Obviously I don't think you should have kids if you're indifferent about them, but I do believe that somehow who is indifferent at age 24 may very well change their mind at 30 or 35, so I felt very nervous about supporting him getting a vasectomy. ESPECIALLY with the idea in the back of my head that he would move on from a non-breeder (me) and find a new partner, one who maybe *does* want kids. I know he has a new girlfriend now, but I have no idea how serious they are or what they're thinking about in that regard, but someday I'd like to ask him... Nosy, mostly. :)

FYI: You can bank sperm beforehand, but the storage is expensive.

So yeah, there's my wordy explanation to say, be sure that both partners are on board 100%! It is reversible in most cases, but it's expensive and painful and not covered by insurance.

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sharway! A+ post!!

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sharway! A+ post!!

Hahaha, thanks! Every once in a while my garrulity comes in handy for someone else! :)

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My hubby had it done in Dec.  He said he felt like he was kicked in the balls but it only took a 2 days to get past constant icing with frozen peas.  I say way better then me having to go under the knife after all I have a;ready done two natural child births.

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If you are absolutely done having children. Then yes, definitely he should get one. For most men the pain is not what people joke about. I had mine on a Friday morning, mid Saturday was the last time i used a bag of ice. I was out and about on Sunday. FYI - at the top of my medical chart it says "another man who is a big baby around medical stuff". Being men, there may be a small chance we are magnifying the expression of pain for a little sympathy.  ;)

It gives both of you a huge relief factor.

I would completely recommend the procedure.

As for the sagging, I believe that has more to do with age and lack of exercise!

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As for the sagging, I believe that has more to do with age and lack of exercise!

Gold star for brutal honesty, sir!

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Would exercise really give a person tight balls?
It's not like there's muscles in there!

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When I took a Human Sexuality class, my professor said there was a risk of natural reversal-- though I don't know how often that may occur. And they can also go back in and try to reverse the v-sec though it may or may not be successful.

But everything has its risks. I'm all for it!

ALSO, I've heard that a male BC is being tested. Some pill that keeps the sperm from swimming? I think that's pretty interesting.

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ALSO, I've heard that a male BC is being tested. Some pill that keeps the sperm from swimming? I think that's pretty interesting.

Yes, I think this technology is progressing in a few places. I had an IUD fitted on the NHS (in the UK) three months ago and while I was there I saw posters up calling for monogamous couples to try the male BC pill.

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My boyfriend and I always wanted kids, but our plan from day one was to adopt. We've spent the last couple years on the back and fourth about whether I should get and IUD or he should get a vasectomy. Well, while we were debating I GOT KNOCKED UP haha, so there goes that. The good news is that we did want kids, this just isn't the route we planned to take. I'm actually glad it happened because now we'll never get that "I wish I could have a biological child, or experience pregnancy, but its too late!" thing, which should make the decision of a vasectomy a little easier on both of us. Well, a lot easier on me. Only a little easier on the person going under the knife!

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The world is headed for an underpopulation crisis.  Modern, secular, urbanized cultures presently cut their population in half with each generation (i.e. average ~1 child per woman).  There is no way to have a healthy growing economy with an aging and shrinking population!  So, ethically speaking, people who can afford it should really try to have more children whenever they possibly can.

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My husband had it done a decade ago and all's well!

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I regret having it done. However I had other health issues which may have caused further trouble in that area after. Varicose seal (sp) which is a water retention situation developed. If you have diabettic or neurological issues you might want to avoid it.

Also as picture shows, I never had a girl

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