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The Moratorium Auditorium: In Which We Unite In Shunning Inadequacy

Crossover from the open letters thread!

Represent.

:-*

On one hand I wish I could join.  But on the other I know I never could.  I have always been "In a Relationship" since 14. 

Luckily between A's dad and marrying LB, though we were dating & engaged for 4 years long distance, I did take time to find out what made me happy.  I believe that you have to love yourself and be happy with yourself before you can love or be happy with another.  No other person can make you happy; not parents, partners or children.  Only you can make yourself happy.

What does this have to do with a dating moratorium?  Well, I took 4 years to learn those things.  I hope you all learn and embrace them by the end of your moratorium!

*Lots of hugs & support*

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No one is leaving the Auditorium!  I am wondering if our theme song should involve cornbread.

Yes.

eta: Thanks for stopping in Cali!  You're always welcome here.  :-*

and yes. I always love what you have to say Cali.

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Dear Meggsy and L&D,

:)>>>

That's it.

CK

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Dear Meggsy and L&D,

:)>>>

That's it.

CK

We're all in this sick love fest together.  :)>>>
Annoyances and all.
If it gets really bad, we'll just move the lovin' to FB and come here for recipes.

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Still my favorite thread!

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This is when I chime in: HIS WHAT, PENIS? WHAT"S WRONG? YOU CAN"T SAY PENIS? WHATS THE BIG DEAL? PEEEEENEEESSSS

yeah- she wanted to kill me.

Haha, I'm the same.  PENIS.  VAGINA.  Yes, they are body parts.  Just like the rest of them.  Deal with it. 

PENIS.
VAGINA.
PENIS.
VAGINA.
PENIS.
VAGINA.

::)

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Addressing some FROF related issues:

1) What happens if this catches on so well that two FROFers meet and go on four dates.  How is it decided who pleases whom?  Coin toss?  3-legged race?  Scrabble?

First, after four dates the two FROFers are free to do whatever they would like to each other as they have met the 4 date requirement thus proving they meet your criteria for a potential partner.  So, I'll assume your query is in reference to the period of time BEFORE a successful 4th date.  In which case there are multiple lines of thought:

    1) Both being FROFers may not feel the need to engage in any physical since you both have an understanding of what the others intentions are.
    2) As stated a game could be played to determine either who gets to do the pleasuring.  Flipping a coin, rock papers scissors, or the first one to sing along/sexy dance to Michael Bolton's "Can I Touch You ... There?" are all potential options.
    3) Both being FROFers may feel comfortable pleasuring each other.  I advise against the option since a big part of the FROF ideology is to not to become sexually attached to someone who may be inadequate and lead to experiences that are possibly regrettable in the future. 

Another question was raised regarding what to do if there is a less than thrilling 3rd date.  Should a fourth date be propositioned?  Does the 3rd even count?  A response:
Depends on the situation.  If you believe the individual has some redeeming qualities about them then certainly you should not give up on them.  After all, we are humans with faults and are not always up to par everyday.  This one is very much a judgement call.
Of course, the rules of FROF are certainly up for debate.

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Foofie, oh magical Foofie,

What exactly constitutes a "date"... as in, four dates.  Actually going out? Coffee? Dinner? Mini golf? Sledding? Laser tag? All of the above? Does the date have to last a specific amount of time?

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haha yes cali - i think it is good for us to have 'guest speakers' like you & l&d to come and chime in with your wisdom.. thats what auditoriums were built for anyway, right?

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I second Meggs question - what counts as a date?  Do group events count? What about online dating sites?  Do they have to be in-person one-on-one dates?  If you are friends with someone for awhile and suddenly see them in a new light, how do the date rules apply?

Your date questions are much better. I would have gotten stumped again had it not been for these additional questions. Thank you.

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Does anyone else feel the urge to make a FROF flow chart?  :)>>>

OMG I LOVE YOU.

I will do it if no one else does!
:)>>>

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Pretty please, I like visuals.

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Or like, an Excel spreadsheet.  You input the stats for each prospect, and out comes the directions for what to do next.

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Or like, an Excel spreadsheet.  You input the stats for each prospect, and out comes the directions for what to do next.

:)>>>

Perfect.  Do you have macros enabled in your version of Excel because I'm all about this.

Psssh, well duh!

Let's macro, baby!

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I also have the data analysis pack, so if we need a complimentary regression analysis, let me know.  I guess individual r squared factors will vary.

You are taking me back to Spring semester of 2007... graduate level psychological statistical regression... I actually have fond memories of it...
I will need a booklet, though, to explain it now, please.  Or, would I simply be the recipient of a flow chart? Or, could I just have one of my more mathematically inclined friends (i.e. MDV or KMK) handle all of this business?

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Haha.

The M.A.: Taking out our sexual frustrations in OCD Excel workbooks with macros and data analysis since 2009.

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...while eating cornbread.

Meggs, a brief R2 refresher from Wiki: In statistics, the coefficient of determination, R2 is used in the context of statistical models whose main purpose is the prediction of future outcomes on the basis of other related information.

I need cornbread to help me figure out this math.
And so adjusted R2 helps with variance??  (please let me be right please let me be right please let me be right)

My theory was that we could each have variables (no multicollinearity, of course!) that would give us an idea of whether a potential candidate is worth dating.  Of course, potential dates would first have to complete a brief survey and then the survey responses could be entered in to the regression analysis, and voila!

That would make things so much easier.

eta: and then we would be free to proceed with FROF (assuming Foofie comes back and provides more clarification!)

Clarification is necessary to proceed.

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And so adjusted R2 helps with variance??  (please let me be right please let me be right please let me be right)

It can be related to unexplained variance.

Yes! That's all I needed to know. Adjusted R2 helps to explain variance.  Let's get back to no sex and moratoriums and non-relationships.

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Haha, what do you need me to teach you?

This is hilarity.  I love it.

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Haha, what do you need me to teach you?

This is hilarity.  I love it.

I think math. But I'm OK with MDV's explanation. I don't really need to get back into regression until next year if I get into the doctoral program.

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